Genesis 2:18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”


I just finished a seminary course on Genesis.  It never ceases to amaze me how I learn something new every time I do a deep study in God’s word.  There is so much in Genesis, the first book of the bible.  It is the beginning of the world and the beginning of life.

One of my favorite parts is the creation of Adam and Eve.  I love how The Lord said “It is not good for the man be alone.” And then, because He is God, He did something about it, He created Eve.  Not only did He create her, but He created her to be his helper and He made her just right for Adam.

God wants us to be with the right person.  The one He has planned for us.  I think we all know someone who got ahead of God and married the wrong person.  Some of those marriages ended in divorce, some are still married and still struggling and some turned it around and have great marriages.

If you are single or single again I want to encourage you to wait and pray for the right person that God has created for you.  If you are in a bad marriage I want to give you hope that God can turn it around.

You see I was saved when I was 13 years old.  I knew and loved the Lord very much for about the next 5 years.  When I turned 18 and became FREE from my parents, I decided to try all the things I did not try as a teenager at home.  I drank, I smoked, and hold on I even tried pot.  I went to night clubs, disco’s, and danced the night away.  In other words, I fell away from the Lord.  I no longer listened to the voice of God and I certainly did not obey his word.

During that time, I meet my husband, who was not a Christian.  We got married and started our life together.  We got pregnant really quick and boy was that a wake up call for me.  As a Christian, I knew that I had to get my life together because I had a baby on the way. The problem was we were living a sinful life.  But you see my husband was not a Christian and not only that he was an alcoholic. Neither of these were really a surprise to me.  My husband did not even want to get married in a church and I said ok.  I knew he drank a lot but so did I, it too was ok.

The rub came when I decided to clean up my act and he did not want to clean up his.  We struggled for the next 2 years, almost divorcing.  THEN GOD.  After separating,  my husband went to a church and accepted Jesus into his heart.  At first I thought it was just to get me to come home, but it was real.

God turned my marriage around, and delivered my husband from alcohol.  Many years later he was called into the ministry and has been a pastor now for close to 25 years.  The beginning of our life was soooooo hard.  It was hard because I was a Christian and I knew I should have married a Christian.  I knew that I was not living the life that God had planned for me.  Looking back, had I simply got my husband in church or told him the salvation story before we were married our life could have been different.

I had a very wise pastor who told me not to give up on my husband.  He told me not to live in a dangerous situation but also not to stop praying for him and not to stop praying for my marriage.  I took his advice and it worked.

If you are looking for that person that God has for you, focus on being the best Christian you can be and keeping your relationship with Christ strong.  THEN WAIT.  DON’T SETTLE.  Set standards that you know God wants you to have for your future mate and don’t date anyone who doesn’t meet the standards.  WHY?  Because you just may fall in love and marry the wrong person.

If you are in that bad marriage, don’t give up.  Don’t live in a bad situation.  Pray every day for your spouse and your marriage.  Get close to God and be the best daughter to God that you can be.  Read the word often and seek out wise counsel.  Cry, get mad, then get serious about saving your marriage.  If God can change my husband and restore my marriage, He can do the same for you.

If you are in a good marriage, be an encourager to a young couple, a single woman or a teenager who may begin to date soon.  We serve a big God who said, “It is not good for man to be alone”.  That means He has someone out there for you.  Just wait for the right one!