Proverbs 6:12-19 (ESV) 12 A worthless person, a wicked man, goes about with crooked speech, 13 winks with his eyes, signals[a] with his feet, points with his finger, 14 with perverted heart devises evil, continually sowing discord; 15 therefore calamity will come upon him suddenly; in a moment he will be broken beyond healing. 16 There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: 17 haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, 18 a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, 19 a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.
The bad-mouther is a person who says something nasty about nearly everyone at the office, the member of your extended family who insults everyone in your family, or the guy in your local church who capitalizes on every opportunity to share how stupid, inept, and hypocritical another Christian is in your church or another one. The sad thing is that some of these are Christians
How do these people get away with it? What is it about the strategy of bringing others down that works?
1) Because sometimes we get unwillingly involved in gossip because we don’t want to hurt feelings, say no, and decline the unsolicited information. When someone wants to gossip to you or in your presence: change the subject or just say you are sorry but you would rather not listen or talk about someone who is not present. It’s just a rule you set for yourself. You are encouraging another to sin. If the gossiper did not have you listening, he would not be gossiping. “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
2) People love gossip, whether it is true or not. “The things most people want to know about are usually none of their business.” ~ George Bernard Shaw
3) It leads to success if allowed to happen and/or continue. This is a way of creating fear in others at work, church and/or in the family. If a person has “TAKEN DOWN” people by sowing discord or gossip then they create fear from others in their circle. Others have seen what chaos this bad-mouther caused for someone else and they do not want it to happen to them so they give in to whatever the bad-mouther wants.
4) They plant bad seeds in your mind about the person they are talking about. You can’t forget it. It may or may not be true, but regardless, it could cause you to treat someone unfairly or love him less. Assumptions and reading into things with the person you heard gossip about begins to grow the seed planted when you listened.
5) Because what they are saying is truth. Truthful gossip is a way to distract you that it is still a sin. Unjust violation of the good reputation of another by revealing something true about him is wrong. We have no right to spread information that ruins something so precious as a good reputation unless it is necessary as in defense of self or of others. It would be great if we all focused on mastering ourselves, rather than wasting time gossiping, passing judgment, and betraying people behind their backs.
I leave you with these 3 quotes:
“What you don’t see with your eyes, don’t witness with your mouth.” ~ Jewish Proverb
“Do not repeat anything you will not sign your name to.” ~ Author Unknown
1 Thessalonians 4:11 Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before.